"FILTERED REALITY, FRAGILE EGO"


I have always thought that Instagramming is therapeutic for people, it increases their self-esteem, you kind of get to live the main character! The feature of adding songs to posts and stories, just make you feel like the song was so apt, and was written just for you. We tend to only post our best versions! As humans that’s who we psychologically are, we don’t want others to see our flaws, we just want to constantly keep telling others that we are living our best life, by updating stories on different places we visit(like the cheese cake picture I have used, which apparently worked as a clickbait here, I actually did not eat that cake, but just posting a story of it will make people think that I had one, and we all know that this exactly how most of the Ig stories work!), movies we watch, every other fun thing that we do, and all of a sudden if we dress better one day we look for a friend with an iPhone, whom we might have never talked to before, just to click a picture. We just want to get the best picture to post on Instagram. And the quality of pictures taken in phones these days are too good that we can post them for modelling!




So basically, we want to capture every nice thing that happens to us, and store them on our highlights as memories, which is a good thing, just looking back at your own highlights can make us feel that we have lived a great life!

The likes and comments that a post gets makes us feel even better, to put it in right words, makes us feel validated, or socially accepted. We are circling in between two things; one is being socially accepted and the other is FOMO. I came into Ig because of this, everyone using it knows that it has nothing, yet we open it every 10 minutes, like we used to do with our fridge when we were kids.

Nonetheless Ig also when it comes to depression, or every other problem we face, makes us feel like all of us are sailing in the same boat! That “We are not alone” feeling is also there, but is this a good thing? Sometimes we don’t even know that a problem exists, like for example our mothers never knew that “Post Partum pressure” was even a thing yet they went through everything, but now that everyone knows that there is something called as Post Partum pressure, without even actually experiencing it they are so mentally prepared that they are going to have it! And is this making life any easier? For some YES, as they can feel that they are not alone, or they can be mentally prepared for such a thing, but for some others I feel like this is inducing fear, a fear of something that may or may not even happen in the future!

Instagram can keep us updated, basically working like a news channel, but by constantly reinforcing the same news in various MEMEs, funny REELS format etc.

While watching a reel which probably lasts for 15 seconds to 3 minutes, or stalking someone else’s profile we are constantly comparing ourselves with them, imagine you are on Ig for one hour, you have subconsciously compared yourself with 20-240 people. Even if not directly at least at some point on some materialistic thing they possess,

For example, I see a girl riding a bike to her college, and I suddenly feel like I wish I could do that, I see a small boy skating and suddenly I want to learn skating too, or I see a kid who is carefree and happy, and I suddenly start imagining why we all grew up so fast? so every other reel made you want to be that other person indirectly. Isn’t this lowering our self-esteem in a way? People with fragile ego feel hurt, and post their “filtered reality”

FILTERED REALITY- how ironic? Who do we want to prove to?

Before YouTube shorts was introduced 4-5 years back, I opened YouTube only when I wanted to know about something, I used to browse craft ideas, recipes, I actually used to search what I wanted, but now, we all are stuck in the first step- WE DON’T KNOW WHAT WE REALLY WANT!

Instagram is also educating us, I learn new things on Ig every day, about the variety of animals in Australia, about various tourist destinations, the different accents of English and what not? It all lies on how we customize our feed!

I will never recommend you to quit social media, but always recommend you to customize your feed!

 

 

 


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